Many of you wrote to me about my attempt to love someone I cannot love. All of you said something on the order of: the one you cannot love is an aspect of you.

I understand that to mean that the one I cannot love is a mirror; that if I look at the quality I despise in her, I will see a quality that I also carry.

Well, (hem and haw) that’s true. No question about it. Even if her action may be an action I wouldn’t take, I can clearly identify some essential quality behind or beneath her action as something we share.

Then it must follow that if I am to love her, I will also love myself!