This issue of Signal Fire is written entirely by a reader. It’s something I’ve been wanting to express for a very long time. I just could never put it as clearly as this. But then, clarity of thought and word is Jeff Nygaard’s way. If you don’t already read Nygaard Notes, I highly recommend it. Here’s what he says:
I’ve noticed a difference in how I resonate with gratitude depending on how I frame things. It’s hard to express, but I’ll try.
The more specific and/or personal I get, the less energizing it is.
It seems like the difference between “grateful to” and “grateful for”
Example:
“I’m grateful to Mark for donating to Nygaard Notes.” vs “I’m grateful for the generosity and solidarity that allows me to do my work.”
The first one is true, and I feel good about it. The second one makes me feel joyful and blessed to be part of a broad community. And it includes the gratitude I feel toward each individual.
I think the first one is more conditional, and depends on a specific action in order to be “true.” The second one rests on a long history and doesn’t change day to day. I’m ALWAYS grateful, and each specific act only reminds me that I am.
Another example:
“I’m grateful for the beautiful day today.” vs “I’m grateful to be alive to experience a day like today.”
Good days come and go, but my gratitude for being a part of the unfolding is always there. My gratitude practice serves to remind me that I can live in a state of gratitude no matter what any given day offers me. What a gift that is!