Someone said, after reading last week’s Tenacity Note (when I failed to radiate love): “I would have been so irritated with myself!” Another reader would have felt guilty for having failed, believing she should have been able to do it. Another would have been ashamed to admit it.

The title of this Tenacity Note? Don’t Should On Yourself. Or maybe, Lighten Up On Yourself.

Here’s an idea. Is should or should have common in your vocabulary? Drop it this week. Don’t use it at all. When you find yourself “shoulding,” find a different way.

Let me know.