A friend suggested I should describe myself this way: “Jett Sophia, the Nagging Psychic. She’s on your side.” 🤗
Owning that moniker, I’m here to nag a bit: Are you practicing gratitude?
Specifically, what are your gratitude practices? What are you actually doing to practice gratitude every day?
The Live Oak trees, beautiful and majestic shade givers that they are, are shedding pollen right now. That pollen is hard on me, so I don’t go out much. Since my primary gratitude practice happens in my car, I need to develop some new practices. https://www.jettsophia.com/259-gratitude/
I imagine some others of you are looking for ideas, too.
Suggestions, please. Let us know. We can all learn from each other.
It’s been a couple years since I wrote about the Hug Your Heart breath. Here’s what I said in December, 2017:
“I am frequently freaked out about the Republicans. Wise counsel says when that happens, just love them. But I have found myself to be unequal to that task. What to do?
Then I remembered my Hug Your Heart breath. Hugging my heart allows me to take a step back from the fear and frustration. Hugging my heart, I can feel love for all people, and indirectly, as it were, for the Republicans.
Even if there were no white supremacists, no misogynists, no child molesters, this would be a good time to practice the Hug Your Heart breath. Because for many people, the holidays cause their own kinds of frustration and anxiety.
Hug Your Heart!”
Focus on what pleases you.
Paying attention to what you like is gratitude in action; it is living in gratitude.
Try it right now. Look around you. What do you see that you like? What do you hear, smell, feel that pleases you? Take a breath, take a moment, and savor it.
As the days lengthen, may yours be filled with the living spirit of gratitude. Happy Solstice.
Do you ever complain?
About the person who didn’t return your phone call or email? About the long line at the grocery store, or the less than courteous clerk? About the percentage of your monthly income taken up by bills? About the government? About an irritating co-worker or neighbor or relative? About the weather?
Regardless what the complaint is about, you can use it as your ally. Every time you find yourself complaining, either in your head or aloud, take a breath and find your way to gratitude. Think of it this way — hidden within every complaint is your ally, nudging you to feel gratitude.
You might call your ally spirit, or your higher self, or your angel, or the divine, or the universe, or your conscience. It doesn’t matter what you call it, just trust that it’s there — an ally, reminding you to feel gratitude.
So complain as much as you want, but use every incident of complaining as a reminder to feel gratitude.
You can cultivate awe.
How? By noticing. Noticing and not knowing.
Notice the flower in the crack in the concrete. Notice the snow on a green leaf. Notice the flavor and feel of salad. Notice the feel of your lover’s skin. Notice the aroma of whatever you’re cooking.
Sometimes, after I wash the kitchen floor, I pause and notice how nice it looks. And I am filled with awe. Not necessarily about the kitchen floor, although it does look pretty good, but about ME. About being alive, being in life, and not knowing what that means; not knowing what or even if there is a purpose to it all. I am filled with awe at life and the mystery of it.
So begin to cultivate awe. And once you’re cultivating it, you can engage this cycle of awe. Experience awe, and exult; be filled with gratitude, and exult; exult, and experience awe.
A definition of love, by Brené Brown.
“We cultivate love when we allow our most vulnerable and powerful selves to be deeply seen and known; and when we honor the spiritual connection that grows from that offering with trust, respect, kindness, and affection.
Love is not something we give or get, it is something that we nurture and grow, a connection that can only be cultivated between two people when it exists within each one of them. We can only love others as much as we love ourselves.
Shame, blame, disrespect, betrayal, and the withholding of affection damage the roots from which love grows. Love can only survive these injuries if they are acknowledged, healed, and rare.”
If you’re stalking expectations, here’s a clue — should.
Whenever you catch yourself saying or thinking “should,” it’s likely you’ve encountered an expectation.
He should, she should have, they should, it should, I should have.
When you come across a should, investigate it. Is an expectation lurking there? Not always, but more often than not, you’ll find one.
Should/should have is a good clue when you’re stalking expectations. And it is also a good clue when you’re stalking beliefs.
If you go to https://www.jettsophia.com/signal-fire/, there is a search function. Look up beliefs.
Stalk your expectations. Stalk your beliefs. Free yourself to be yourself!
“If you tell someone that you are about to stick their hand into a bucket of scalding water, but instead you plunge the hand into ice water, most people will cry out as if the water was hot.” ~Deepak Chopra
Expectations can mess you up!
Think of a conflict you’ve had. If you look carefully at it, you’ll likely discover that the real cause of your conflict was your expectations. And while you may believe that you’re interacting with another person, you’re actually interacting with your own expectations. In this way, expectations get in the way of solutions.
And they’re everywhere. Our personal reality is built on expectations. Stalk them. Identify them. Make them conscious. Then let them go.
Eschew expectations, and you may be able to build your personal reality on curiosity and appreciation and wonder.